✨ How to Attract A GOOD Man

Blog by Coach Heather Owens, RN, MBA, Certified Fitness & Life Coach

Beautiful angel…

Today we are diving deep into something so many women desire, crave, and secretly fear they may never experience:

Healthy masculine love.

Not a project.
Not a fixer-upper.
Not a man-child.
Not breadcrumbing or confusion.
Not masculine aesthetics with feminine emotional immaturity hiding underneath.

I’m talking about:

A man with integrity.
A man who protects.
A man who chooses you fully.
A man who leads with character, not ego.
A man who is emotionally safe, grounded, present, consistent, and devoted.

A man who meets your feminine heart with masculine steadiness and depth.

And here’s the truth most women were never taught:

Healthy masculine love isn’t “found.”
It’s attracted — by the woman you become.

Today, I’m going to show you how to embody the feminine energy that draws healthy masculine love in… naturally, effortlessly, and powerfully.

✨ What Is Healthy Masculine Love?

Healthy masculine love feels like:

✨ Safety
✨ Stability
✨ Consistency
✨ Clarity
✨ Presence
✨ Protection
✨ Leadership
✨ Accountability
✨ Deep listening
✨ Emotional intelligence
✨ Support
✨ Honor

A healthy masculine man:

• sees you clearly

• values your feelings

• cherishes your softness

• respects your boundaries

• leads from love, not control

He doesn’t fear your strength — he HONORS it.
He doesn’t punish your softness — he TREASURES it.
He doesn’t run from your emotions — he HOLDS space for them.

And most importantly:

He feels like home, not a rollercoaster.

✨ The Truth Most Women Don’t Know

Let’s shift into the psychology and polarity behind healthy love.

Healthy masculine love is not attracted to:

• chaos

• emotional volatility

• mothering energy

• over-functioning

• chasing energy

• anxious pursuit

• hyper-independence

• self-abandonment

• women who don’t trust themselves

Healthy masculine men are magnetized to feminine energy that is:

✨ Soft but steady
✨ Open but grounded
✨ Sensual but self-respecting
✨ Confident but receptive
✨ Expressive but emotionally mature
✨ Feminine but authentic
✨ Honest but not harsh
✨ Independent but not closed

Healthy masculine energy is drawn to:

• Emotional maturity

• Feminine self-trust

• Inner calm and nervous system regulation

• Feminine softness grounded in strength

• A woman who receives, not overworks for love

It's energy compatibility, not luck.

✨ My Story — How My Energy Transformed My Relationship

There was a time when I didn’t understand masculine–feminine polarity.

I overgave.
I overexplained.
I stayed strong when I needed softness.
I held everything together while silently collapsing inside.
I avoided conflict.
I had no boundaries.
I didn’t express my needs.
I lived in survival mode instead of feminine receiving mode.

As I healed…

• as I reconnected with God

• as I developed emotional maturity

• as I regulated my nervous system

• as I embraced my sensuality

• as I stopped abandoning myself

• as I learned self-trust

• as I stepped into my feminine magnetism

…my marriage transformed.

Not because Jason changed.

But because I did.

My softness became safe.
My confidence became magnetic.
My emotional maturity made communication easier.
My boundaries created clarity.
My feminine energy invited his masculine leadership.

Healthy masculine love rose in response to the woman I became.

✨ How to Attract Healthy Masculine Love

The Feminine Framework

🔥 1. Regulate Your Nervous System

A dysregulated woman attracts chaotic men.
A calm, embodied woman attracts grounded masculine leadership.

This is why:

• slow breath

• sensual movement

• yoga

• Pilates

• grounding

• prayer

• embodiment

…are not just self-care.

They are feminine polarity practices.

🔥 2. Stop Overgiving and Overfunctioning

Healthy masculine men do not want to be mothered.

They are drawn to women who:

• receive

• allow

• express desires

• appreciate

• create space for masculine leadership

Overgiving is a trauma response.
Receiving is feminine power.

🔥 3. Speak from Your Feminine Truth

Instead of:

“You don’t care.”
“You never listen.”
“You should know what I need.”

Shift into:

“I feel…”
“I desire…”
“I need…”
“I would love…”

Healthy masculine men respond to clarity, not criticism.

🔥 4. Hold Boundaries With Soft Confidence

“Soft but firm” is feminine power.

Boundaries communicate:

• self-worth

• emotional maturity

• safety

Healthy masculine men RELAX when a woman has boundaries.

Because it shows she can hold herself.

🔥 5. Stay in Your Feminine Lane

Let him:

• plan something

• take initiative

• support you

• open the door

• lead in moments of decision

• pursue you

This is not weakness.
This is energetic harmony.

The feminine inspires direction.
The masculine provides it.

🔥 6. Embody Sensual Confidence

A woman in her body is irresistible to healthy masculine energy.

Not sexual performance —
but sensual embodiment:

• softening your shoulders

• slowing your breath

• moving with intention

• savoring beauty

• wearing what makes YOU feel radiant

• owning your presence

• receiving affection lovingly

Sensuality is feminine radiance — not objectification.

🔥 7. Trust Yourself First

Healthy masculine men are drawn to women who trust their:

• intuition

• emotions

• boundaries

• experiences

• inner wisdom

Self-trust is the foundation of feminine attraction.

🔥 8. Become the Woman Who Believes She Deserves It

Your energy reflects your beliefs.

If you believe:

“I’m too much.”
“I’m not enough.”
“All the good men are taken.”
“I can’t trust myself in relationships.”

…you subconsciously repel healthy love.

Shift your identity → change your romantic reality.

✨ What Healthy Masculine Love Feels Like

It feels like:

• safety without suffocation

• leadership without domination

• passion without chaos

• consistency without confusion

• attention without manipulation

• strength without aggression

• devotion without dependency

It feels like:

“I can breathe.”
“I can soften.”
“I can trust.”
“I can be seen.”
“I can be held.”
“I can be ME.”

Healthy masculine love doesn’t activate your wounds —
it awakens your feminine.

✨ CLOSING: You Attract What You Become

Gorgeous woman…

You do NOT attract a healthy masculine man by:

• being prettier

• being thinner

• trying harder

• working for love

• chasing

• overgiving

• performing

• perfecting yourself

You attract him by becoming:

✨ grounded
✨ emotionally mature
✨ regulated
✨ self-honoring
✨ feminine
✨ soft and strong
✨ sensual
✨ confident
✨ intuitive
✨ self-trusting

Healthy masculine energy recognizes a woman who knows her worth.

It rises for her.
Protects her.
Cherishes her.
Leads with her in mind.
Meets her with devotion.
Honors her feminine heart.

You don’t have to beg for love.
You don’t have to force love.
You don’t have to chase love.

You simply have to be aligned with the love you desire.

And when you are…

Love that feels like HOME will find you. 🥀

✨ JOURNAL PROMPTS

1. Where do I still abandon myself in relationships?

2. What would it look like to stay in my feminine energy today?

3. What beliefs about men or love are blocking healthy masculine love?

4. How does healthy masculinity already show up in my life?

5. Who do I become when I feel emotionally safe in love?